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Recently I've been somewhat addicted to reading Lolita Secrets, and I must say it's a little depressing. (・_・、) There's so much negativity.
Honestly I don't spend a lot of time on the communities because for two reasons. One, I'm lazy and frankly if I have the patience to put together any kind of loliable outfit I neglect to take pictures and two, I have a bit of a fear of joining fashion communities on the internet after my bad experience with Daily Gyaru. Even though I know there must be a fair amount of drama or whatever in any kind of community where fashion is discussed but I guess I was still clinging to the idea that lolita is still about sisterhood, modesty, and... well... happy things!
Why must they be so negative towards not only against other types of lolita, each other but other subcultures! Honestly anyone who falls under a subculture looks a little unusual to the rest of society, so why do we seem to hate on each other so much? What about sisterhood? What about originality?
Honestly this has left a bit of a bitter taste in my mouth, which is sad considering what a sweet style it is.
I think it's more important to focus on making myself look good instead and feel happy and confident in anything I wear, not trying to fit into a style of dress that's so full of negativity!
Let's find some confidence ladies! We're worth it!
Weather we want to our not it's easy to get swept up into the subcultures of fashion and identify with I certain label (such as lolita, emo, gyaru... Ect.) We spend so much time, energy and money on a certain fashion or lifestyle, so when something comes along to make us feel like we're not doing it right, well, it's heartbreaking!
（；へ：）
I experienced this last year when my dreams of gyaru were trampled by my rejection from the Daily Gyaru community. I have to admit that was really sad. I thought I was doing an okay job at Gal and even Mamba (Yes I want through a mamba phase... Don't shame me) but then I was basically told that I'm was good enough.
So how does one get over something like that? When your identity (however silly it may be) is put into question and you have to decide if it's really worth continuing. For those of you who don't let negativity set you back, I salute you and hold you at the highest admiration! Unfortunately though, not all of us are strong enough to recover from a fashion identity crisis quite as easily.
So where do we go from there?
My rejection from everyday Gyaru really put me at distaste with Japanese fashion or any sort of label for a while. I've never really regained an interest in Gal style (Besides learning Para Para for anime conventions) but I have taken a liking to other subcultures, like Lolita! (Duh ._.') Even so, I'm not sure if I really want to dive headfirst into Lolita. (I think I've found a happy balance with Quaintrelle style though.)
It took a while to really regain confidence after that though. It was very upsetting and I sort of had to take a step back from the whole thing and say "Is this really what I want for myself? Will this make me happy?"
I think if the clothing you wear, the lifestyle you lead and the friends you have make you happy, then why worry about labels? If you like big puffy lolita skirts but you're not too keen on the idea of wearing bonnets and tea party shoes then why let anyone tell you you're not allowed to do that?
Lolita lifestyle and culture may be enough to make a lot of us happy, (And there's nothing wrong with that.) but for some it takes a little more than tea parties and petticoats.
Labels are for soup. Do what makes you happy.
Sweet lace, frills and bows combined with a the nostalgia of fairy tales and princesses is what's really drawn me into the sub culture of lolita, but unfortunately the price tag is a little discouraging (._.')It's not easy to capture the beauty of lolita without coughing up a lot of cash that some of us just don't have.
So how does a high style, low budget fashionista find a way to enjoy lolita? Well....
• Budgeting. Sometimes you have you set aside something you want for something you love, that could mean skipping your daily mocha for a month or two in exchange for that new Baby JSK you've had your eye on. I carry around a list of things I need to save up for (San Franscico, Anime North, getting my hair dyed.) in my wallet.
• Work. I know the economy sucks right now and finding a job isn't easy, especially for teenagers (´∩｀。) so finding a source of income requires a little creativity. Have a talent? Sell it! Weather it be knitting scarfs and selling them on etsy or even busking guitar on the street. A little bit of extra cash can go a long way!
• Buy off-brand. (Sometimes.) It's tough to compromise the style you love by buying off-brand (Not that there's anything wrong with it! But with brand items you're usually guaranteed amazing quality. ) but sometimes it's not a bad idea to buy off-brand for certain things (Like shoes or petticoats.) to save money for brand items (Like head bows and skirts.) Being creative and adorning yourself in all kinds of beautiful clothing, as opposed to just head to toe brand can lead to unique and interesting results, as well as affordability.
Oh what a week it's been.
Semester too started so now I have all new classes! Yay!
My times table goes as followed: Drama, Math, Art, Science. So there's a very good mix of academics and arts to keep me busy. With all the homework I'm going to have I don't know how I'll be able to blog @_@ (But neverfear, I will find a way!)
Onto lolita news, I think I've decided what skirt I'm going to get from the baby store. Right now I'm leaning towards the Frilled Petticoat in white because it's A) Adorable. B) Somewhat in my price range (Under $200) and C.) More towards the style of lolita I favor.
Baby has a lot of pieces I really like right now, and if it wasn't so far out of my budget I'd probably get a jumper, but seeing as my current financial situation calls for less lavish shopping I keep my sights on the skirts.
Finally, I wanted to share this video with you! I was having a bad day yesterday and I was really feeling down. Then my friend showed me this video! Easily made my night. I plan on watching it anytime I'm sad.
Well I suppose I'm off for now. Thanks for reading •w•
It's my brother's birthday today so I made him a cake with my mom (Well, mostly I just iced the cake and ate the batter, hehe!)Obviously my cake isn't as pretty or professional like the one above but it'll taste delicious! Without a doubt.Cakes are so adorable and pretty, sort of like lolitas! The two are ideal together aren't they? Speaking of which, (Don't you just love my transitions?) I found out yesterday that I will be going to San Fransico for March Break! Which of course means I'll be visiting the Baby The Stars Shine Bright store! What a dream come true! I need to decide what I want to get ahead of time because it's going to be a hassle find the money to afford the things I want (Which is pretty much everything. I could spend years in that store!) so I'll probably be working extra hard at my job as a waitress. I need some help deciding what to wear and what to buy.It's going to be an exciting trip for sure!
